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Help for the Cutter!

First I want to give you some information about cutting and cutters, but remember we are all individuals and each individual is different.

Statistics show that even though anyone can be a cutter, most cutters are female, in her mid-20s to early 30s, who has been hurting herself since her teens. She tends to be middle- or upper-middle-class, intelligent, and well-educated. Eating disorders are also common in cutters.

A typical cutter begins during late childhood and can continue 10-15 years. There are many common factors in those who are self harmers. These factors include substance abuse, violence at home, and perfectionist patterns. However, a study by Brodsky, et al. (1995) showed that abuse as a child is not a marker for dissociation and self-injury as an adult.

It has been found that two major emotional states most commonly present in self-injurers at the time of injury -- anger and anxiety.

Why do people cut? There are as many reasons as there are cutters, but there are some common reasons such as:

Usually after a cutting, the person will feel guilt and remorse for their actions, but when the urge comes again they will have trouble stopping. None of the above reasons is a good reason to cutting, it is a way of coping but it is the wrong way. Cutting just covers over the underlying problem and causes more problems, like shame and guilt. If you are a cutter, you need to know that it is wrong to injure yourself.

The bottled up emotions, the numbness, feelings of being dead, or of deserving of punishment are normal in everyone to some degree. We are all born into this world as sinners, separated from God. We need to repair that relationship in order to understand what life is about. These emotions you are feeling should draw you to God. He is the one who can take away the feelings of being dead, of guilt and deserving punishment, the numbness and feelings of being out of control.

You may notice that I never tell people to go to psychotherapists. I do recommend that people go to a family doctor and make sure that there are not underlying physical causes for their depression or cutting, but I don't recommend the psychology industry and the following shows why:

When many psychotherapists reach a conclusion about a person, not only do they ignore anything that questions or contradicts their conclusions, they actively fabricate and conjure up false statements or erroneous observations to support their conclusion [note that this process can be unconscious] (Arkes and Harkness 1980). When given information by a patient, therapists attend only to that which supports the conclusion they have already reached (Strohmer et al. 1990)... The frightening fact about conclusions reached by therapists with respect to patients is that they are made within 30 seconds to two or three minutes of the first contact (Ganton and Dickinson 1969; Meehl 1959; Weber et al. 1993). Once the conclusion is reached, mental health professionals are often impervious to any new information and persist in the label assigned very early in the process on the basis of minimal information, usually an idiosyncratic single cue (Rosenhan 1973).

We were all created to have a relationship with our Creator (God) and until we do that we will search and feel that something is missing in us. Notice from above that one of the things noted about cutters is that they are most often angry and anxious. These emotions can be brought on by a number of things, but one major item is the feeling that life has no meaning. You won't find life's meaning until you find God. He loves you and wants to have a relationship with you, but it is up to you.

The thing to remember is that if you are a cutter, you are not crazy, you are not the only one and there is hope. That hope comes through Jesus Christ. (Matthew 11:28-30 NIV) [28] "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. [29] Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. [30] For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

Rest for your soul, isn't that what you really want? Jesus will give you that, I am living proof of it. (Romans 10:9-13 NIV) That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. [10] For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. [11] As the Scripture says, "Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame." [12] For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, [13] for, "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."

If you are a cutter, you are not alone. There is hope. Please read some of the letters below.

I'm a cutter and don't think God still loves me
I am a very young cutter and desperatly want to stop.
I don't know if I'm a cutter.
I am a cutter and wonder where those problems come from.
I have depression and am also a self-injurer.
I'm a 15 year old cutter who just wants to die.

E-Mail Ralph (Whose comments are in green)

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